a) At the simplest level, a better life is a life where one doesn’t have to worry about having a roof over one’s head and foot to eat. Next would be having the opportunity to pursue one’s interests.
I know this all sounds very basic but I don’t want my brother to ever go hungry and that I’ll always provide a home for him. My parents have accounted for this with having the right assets secured but it’s something I don’t want to rely on. I want to build an extra layer of margin of error because 1) I don’t know what the future holds and 2) when life goes wrong, it goes wrong quickly.
My mother is fiercely protective, understandably so, but it’s come at the cost of my brother not developing any life skills. My mother, bless her, refuses to let him learn how to cook, clean, go for a walk by himself or meet other people. I know she worries a lot and it’s her way of controlling the situation. For quite a long time I was at odds with my mum about this but I’ve come to realise that had I had her life experiences and perspective, I’d probably do the same thing.
B) haha yes! I know I know, i was so naive a few years ago 😅
Funnily enough, I said to my girlfriend on our first date a few months ago: “I want to know what the worst version of you is like, because if I can learn to love that version the upside will take care of itself.”
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Great questions Jude.
a) At the simplest level, a better life is a life where one doesn’t have to worry about having a roof over one’s head and foot to eat. Next would be having the opportunity to pursue one’s interests.
I know this all sounds very basic but I don’t want my brother to ever go hungry and that I’ll always provide a home for him. My parents have accounted for this with having the right assets secured but it’s something I don’t want to rely on. I want to build an extra layer of margin of error because 1) I don’t know what the future holds and 2) when life goes wrong, it goes wrong quickly.
My mother is fiercely protective, understandably so, but it’s come at the cost of my brother not developing any life skills. My mother, bless her, refuses to let him learn how to cook, clean, go for a walk by himself or meet other people. I know she worries a lot and it’s her way of controlling the situation. For quite a long time I was at odds with my mum about this but I’ve come to realise that had I had her life experiences and perspective, I’d probably do the same thing.
B) haha yes! I know I know, i was so naive a few years ago 😅
Funnily enough, I said to my girlfriend on our first date a few months ago: “I want to know what the worst version of you is like, because if I can learn to love that version the upside will take care of itself.”
Thanks for reading!
Great questions Jude.
a) At the simplest level, a better life is a life where one doesn’t have to worry about having a roof over one’s head and foot to eat. Next would be having the opportunity to pursue one’s interests.
I know this all sounds very basic but I don’t want my brother to ever go hungry and that I’ll always provide a home for him. My parents have accounted for this with having the right assets secured but it’s something I don’t want to rely on. I want to build an extra layer of margin of error because 1) I don’t know what the future holds and 2) when life goes wrong, it goes wrong quickly.
My mother is fiercely protective, understandably so, but it’s come at the cost of my brother not developing any life skills. My mother, bless her, refuses to let him learn how to cook, clean, go for a walk by himself or meet other people. I know she worries a lot and it’s her way of controlling the situation. For quite a long time I was at odds with my mum about this but I’ve come to realise that had I had her life experiences and perspective, I’d probably do the same thing.
B) haha yes! I know I know, i was so naive a few years ago 😅
Funnily enough, I said to my girlfriend on our first date a few months ago: “I want to know what the worst version of you is like, because if I can learn to love that version the upside will take care of itself.”
What a brutally honest and beautiful piece. Here's a question, ok two questions:
a) what would a 'better' life look like? I hear people say this, but better is subjective and only belongs to you. So what would a 'better' life be?
b) and what the hell is a perfect wife?? The warts and all is what you sign on for.
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Thanks for reading!
Great questions Jude.
a) At the simplest level, a better life is a life where one doesn’t have to worry about having a roof over one’s head and foot to eat. Next would be having the opportunity to pursue one’s interests.
I know this all sounds very basic but I don’t want my brother to ever go hungry and that I’ll always provide a home for him. My parents have accounted for this with having the right assets secured but it’s something I don’t want to rely on. I want to build an extra layer of margin of error because 1) I don’t know what the future holds and 2) when life goes wrong, it goes wrong quickly.
My mother is fiercely protective, understandably so, but it’s come at the cost of my brother not developing any life skills. My mother, bless her, refuses to let him learn how to cook, clean, go for a walk by himself or meet other people. I know she worries a lot and it’s her way of controlling the situation. For quite a long time I was at odds with my mum about this but I’ve come to realise that had I had her life experiences and perspective, I’d probably do the same thing.
B) haha yes! I know I know, i was so naive a few years ago 😅
Funnily enough, I said to my girlfriend on our first date a few months ago: “I want to know what the worst version of you is like, because if I can learn to love that version the upside will take care of itself.”
Sounds like your idea of a 'better' life is spot on. You're a good brother and that is very special.